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The Confusing Etiquette Of Being A Female

The Confusing Etiquette Of Being A Female

I work in an INCREDIBLY male dominated industry and because of that I find myself regularly checking to make sure I still use the correct etiquette for a lady. I am a huge believer in the proper manners, respect and of course etiquette. The very biggest issue is something I have only just thought about lately. Surprisingly it’s the handshake. Yep, it doesn’t seem like something you’d think twice about but your handshake can say a lot about you. A simple gesture that lasts merely seconds can convey a lot about you to another person.

There are many, many things that are appropriate and very inappropriate for a women even in this day and age. I’m all for feminism but I endeavour to always act like a lady. This handshake realisation came over me when I was telling my husband how some people shake your hand limply and I felt it was weird. He proceeded to tell me that women usually don’t have even a remotely strong handshake and that’s probably why some men shake hands with a women gently. I suddenly became hyper aware of my handshake. What if I shake hands like a man? As stupid as it sounds, I was horrified to think I had a ‘bloke’ handshake. I can’t rationalise my feelings on this but it got me thinking.

There are a million contradicting actions involved in acting correctly in public if you’re a female. It is exhausting trying to remember to every single appropriate action in public. From a gentle handshake (which I assume portrays how feminine your are?) to walking anywhere with soft steps, hands gently by your side, shoulders back, head held high and delicate paces. It’s exhausting just thinking about it.

I’m inclined to actually google the correct way for a woman to shake hands with someone – yes I think I have gone crazy. It is these moments in my life that inspires the actions of my characters in my writing. From every situation in life we can take away something that will inspire our thoughts because after all, the best books are those that capture the essence of real life in their pages.

I added a funny photo just for those men out there that need some handshake tips 😉

Handshake Manliness

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Posted by on February 25, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

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What Songs Are On Your Playlist?

What Songs Are On Your Playlist?

I don’t think I could live without music. Beautiful words sung in a beautiful tune is something that can really ignite my imagination. I always seem to have music playing, even when I’m writing. Today just for something different, I thought I’d share the songs on my favourite playlist and I would love everyone else to share some of their favs too. This is judgement free zone on music choice 😉

My Top Ten – Not in any particular order

1. Heart by Heart – Demi Lovato

2.The Heart Wants What It Wants – Selena Gomez

3. Clean – Taylor Swift

4. Skyscraper – Demi Lovato

5. You Ruin Me – The Veronicas

6.When The Darkness Comes – Colbie Caillat

7. Elastic Heart -Sia

8. Almost Is Never Enough – Ariana Grande

9. Clarity – Zed ft Foxes

10. Highway Don’t Care – Tim McGraw ft Taylor Swift

*Honourable mention to – My Songs Know What You Did In The Dark – Fall Out Boy* Just to prove I do like songs other than female artists.

It was really difficult to choose just 10 but I think those are my favourites right now (it changes regularly). I recently got the Mortal Instruments Sound Track and there are some awesome songs on there (hence why I’ve got three on my list). Most of those songs have really great lyrics and that’s a lot of the reason why they’re my favourites playlist. The raw emotion in them helps me channel that into my writing.

Who else is game to post their fav songs?

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Posted by on February 4, 2015 in Writing

 

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Authors and Writers – Why do you want to be Famous or Well Known?

The thought of becoming a ‘famous’ writer always hangs at the back of my mind but what drives me to that? Why do I so desperately want to be famous for doing what I love?

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It got me thinking about the reason other writers/authors (or anyone) want to become famous. I guess fame in the writing word can be interpreted in many different ways. My idea of fame is having thousands of people own a copy of atleast one of my books.

We all have different reasoning to push our work and make a name for ourselves. This is my reasoning –

I want people to love my work. I want the reader to look forward to my next book, to go on the emotional roller coaster that my characters go on. I want my books lingering on the shelves of many, many bookshops all over the world, pages dog-eared from frequent use. I want my words to have a profound effect on people, to shape them in the best kind of way.

Many books I’ve read have opened my mind to different ideas and points of view. That’s exactly what I want my books to do. I’ve included some difficult issues in some of my writing and I would love for an impressionable person to read that and learn from the character’s mistakes rather than making them themselves.

I would love to create a book that ropes the reader into the story so much so that they find themselves tearing up at certain parts (and not because the book is THAT bad haha). That is when I will feel as though my work is not that bad after all. For a reader to get so emotionally involved in a story that they’re upset enough to cry when appropriate tells me that I have written that book/story to an acceptable level. I’m not one to be conceited about my work but that is how I measure the level of success of my writing. Of course then you have to convince thousands of people that your work is worth their time. That’s a huge feat which is why I appreciate small milestones.

Why do you or did you want to become famous for doing what you love?

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Posted by on September 8, 2014 in Uncategorized, Writing

 

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Should Writer’s Blogs only be about writing, reading and books?

Should Writer’s blogs only be about writing, reading and books?

The short answer – No, I don’t think so.

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I am following a few author’s/writer’s blogs and am surprised that I never see any posts about anything that doesn’t directly relate to reading, writing or books and I don’t know why. If you’re a writer then why not share where you get inspiration from? My life experiences may just inspire someone else so why should I not share that with others? Books can be very inspiring but they are the result of the compilation of another writer’s inspiration. 

Every day little things in my life provoke a whole whirlwind of thoughts and ideas. These ideas invoke feelings that makes me think of character traits that would suit certain characters I’m writing or intend to write about. 

Hopefully some of my strange musings might invoke a train of thought that will inspire my readers in some way. So, for now I shall end with a few inspirational quotes from those smarter than I.

Pat Brisson Quote

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Posted by on August 29, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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